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August 21, 2009 By
My Life Before Sexy Spirits
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Sexual energy has always been and continues to be the single most driving force in my life. It has provided me with continuous source of happiness, balance, and well-being. The physical, mental, and emotional pleasure that sexual energy provides me with is a pleasure that I have never yet found an equal for. I have always felt my oneness with the universe through my sexual energy. Through sexual energy I create the world I desire to experience.
In 1996, after 25 years as a professional ballroom dancer, I decided to hang up my dance shoes, close my dance schools, and reluctantly end a 15 year long marriage to my wife and dance partner.
To have connected my mind and body through the art of dance was truly a gift to me this lifetime but the greater gift in my dance education was learning about man/woman relationships.
Actually my professional dance career, which began shortly after college, began less as an artistic pursuit and more as an opportunity to pursue the many beautiful female dancers that graced the dance floor. Being a straight Latin male in a highly populated gay male environment at that time certainly increased my optimism of being a successful Casanova.
With my college music education and having been somewhat of an athlete during my early youth, it would not be difficult to learn and eventually teach ballroom dancing for a living. As I had hoped, I soon enjoyed perhaps every young man’s testosterone-guided dream – to be a successful happy go lucky playboy with an abundant amount of women to make love to. I never dreamed at the time, that my career as a dancer would blossom into me being a World and United States champion.
Naturally it took having a larger goal with my dancing and a commitment to my dance partner’s well being. So I got married to a girl named Bonnie and we became champions!
Our marriage was not an easy one. We had no handbook on marriage, had many different needs and wants, and were both somewhat uncompromising in accommodating them.
But we were united by our common goal to become dance champions and were willing to stick with it out no matter what it took.To have somewhat mastered the art of moving as a beautiful body consciously and effortlessly through time and space was a task in itself. But the real blood, sweat, and tears, came in learning how to be in partnership with my wife and dance partner. My greatest lessons about relationships in life were to be learned through the art of ballroom dancing. Shortly after our retirement from professional competing, we mutually decided to dissolve our marriage. divorce. Despite our eventual , we are still today committed to one another’s welfare and well being.These lessons learnt nearly 10 years ago still form today the basic philosophies of Sexy Spirits.As my dance career drew to a close, I made the decision to leave the dance world completely and find new avenues of growth. Having being profoundly influenced by Alexander Technique during my dance training, and intrigued by a book entitled, “The Tao of Health, Sex, and
Longevity” by Daniel P. Reid, I began looking into the field of wholistic health with a focus on sexual energy cultivation. I think deep down I wanted to live forever and grow into a healthy, happy, sexy old man.
But we were united by our common goal to become dance champions and were willing to stick with it out no matter what it took.To have somewhat mastered the art of moving as a beautiful body consciously and effortlessly through time and space was a task in itself. But the real blood, sweat, and tears, came in learning how to be in partnership with my wife and dance partner. My greatest lessons about relationships in life were to be learned through the art of ballroom dancing. Shortly after our retirement from professional competing, we mutually decided to dissolve our marriage. divorce. Despite our eventual , we are still today committed to one another’s welfare and well being.These lessons learnt nearly 10 years ago still form today the basic philosophies of Sexy Spirits.As my dance career drew to a close, I made the decision to leave the dance world completely and find new avenues of growth. Having being profoundly influenced by Alexander Technique during my dance training, and intrigued by a book entitled, “The Tao of Health, Sex, and
Longevity” by Daniel P. Reid, I began looking into the field of wholistic health with a focus on sexual energy cultivation. I think deep down I wanted to live forever and grow into a healthy, happy, sexy old man.Biography
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In 1996, after 25 years as a professional ballroom dancer, I decided to hang up my dance shoes, close my dance schools, and reluctantly, end a 12 year long marriage to my then wife and dance partner.
To have unified my mind and body through the art of dance was truly a gift to me in this lifetime. An even greater realization during my years as a Professional Ballroom and Latin Dancer, was to learn how partnership dancing, even at it’s highest technical level, reveals almost instantly, how a man and a woman relate and interact with each other privately. I can watch any couple today either on TV or the dance floor and tell you whether they love and respect one another or whether they despise or devalue one another.
To have unified my mind and body through the art of dance was truly a gift to me in this lifetime. An even greater realization during my years as a Professional Ballroom and Latin Dancer, was to learn how partnership dancing, even at it’s highest technical level, reveals almost instantly, how a man and a woman relate and interact with each other privately. I can watch any couple today either on TV or the dance floor and tell you whether they love and respect one another or whether they despise or devalue one another.
So much of my life had revolved around a quest to master the art of moving, as a beautiful body, consciously and effortlessly through time and space. But as I look back today, the greatest lessons I learned through the art of ballroom dance were all about my relationship to the women in my life as a man.
My sexuality has always been and continues to be the single most driving force in my life. It is for me all that I find right and desirable in my relationship with the physical world. It is my continuous source of happiness, balance, and well-being. The physical, mental, and emotional pleasure that sexual energy provides me with is a pleasure that I have never yet found an equal for. My choice to have entered the dance world as a career was in large part due to the nearly unlimited resource of feminine energy that I became surrounded with. It was, in part, the exploitation of that resource that led me, in 1994, to a physical and emotional crisis that manifested in a total shutdown of my body. For the first time in my life, I experienced erectile dysfunction, and became so mentally distraught that I believed myself to be totally impotent. There was no Viagra at the time to “pump me up”, or more accurately, to obscure the truth of what my body was trying to tell me. After no help from the medical community that expressed my condition as “normal”, I found a book entitled “The Tao Health, Sex, & Longevity ” and my forever changed. I learned through fasting how to regenerate my body. I learned through ancient Taoist practices, how to become the master of my sexuality rather than its slave. Most importantly, I learned that at anytime we choose, we can be the creators of the universe that we live in.
In 2001, I entered into a state of unconditional love and full acceptance of my Self. In simple words, it was a realization that I would always have myself to give and receive all the love and acceptance that I would ever need to be happy in life. And that I would furthermore have the very best partner to be with when the time came for me to depart from my body. Only until I was able to provide myself with unlimited love, was I able to now love others with no need for love in return. Only then was I able to feel true compassion and love without any conditions for others. It was a perfect that I was introduced to the art of sensual and loving touch.
Four years later, I manifested the greatest “love of my life” with whom I could, as now in relationship with another, partake in conscious evolution with. I have come to realize that it takes a community to support a relationship. That without community, we are, most times, left with unfulfilled needs and wants within our relationships that could never be possible fulfilled by just one person. It is within healthy, sane, and loving communities that relationships best prosper. It is through community that we are best able to dream, share and support, one another in manifesting our greatest gifts and fullest potentials that we offer the world.
Through joyous celebration, as a community, we bring one another into greater wisdom and happiness. It is my belief that the fastest path to achieving the enlightenment and bliss intended to be experienced in this lifetime on this planet is accomplished through a community that is free of sexual repression.It is through finding or creating our sacred family and dancing in a natural community of sexual freedom that we are able to find and maintain support for the personal relationship we desire to establish with another.
Through a disciplined and conscious use of our sexual energy, the individuals within that community are able to most effectively and efficiently support one another into higher states of aliveness and intelligence Though total love and freedom is most certainly within our own power to experience alone, so much sweeter is it’s taste when experienced within community with others. In the year 1999, Sexy Spirits was conceived and created to serve as a beacon for that community.
Strong sex-positive, spiritually oriented, communities were prevalent in the ancient world as seen in the Wiccan systems in Europe and Tantric and Taoist systems in the East. Though we may not be able to return to these ancient lifestyles in today’s modern world, we can become conscious of their practices and learn how to integrate them into our lives today.
Sexy Spirits is first and foremost on a mission to create, discover, and individually expand, as a community. If a chord resonates within you as you read these words, then you may have recognized deep within you a calling to your sacred family. If such is the case, it is time now to unite, celebrate, and luxuriate in your magnificence with other sexy spirits!
Erotic Enlightenment
March 11, 2009 By
So who exactly is creating that mindful spice that turns the everyday act of making babies into lust and passion-filled fantasies fulfilled? It’s the real YOU! Or what you might call Spirit, or simply put, the awareness part of you. The reality is, it’s what we choose to make sexy that is really sexy.Swinging and exploring the full range of our sexuality through bringing our erotic fantasies to life can be purely and simply a pleasurable experience, or it can be another step toward spiritual freedom.
Sexplorations
January 14, 2009 By Leave a Comment
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Too Soft, Too Soon!
Last modified on 2009-04-05 22:13:32 GMT. 0 comments. Top.
Hi,
I just started a new sexual relationship and my male partner who is in his middle 50’s is having trouble sustaining an erection and ejaculating too quickly once inside me. Can you make some suggestions? ie; techniques, books to read, videos to watch, courses to take.
Thank You, In Anticipation.
Seeking Assistance
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Dear Seeking Assistance,
A Taoist saying goes:
“Death results from Hard entry and Soft retreat. Life from Soft entry and Hard retreat”.
I would suggest this as a daily practice immediately. Do not make having Orgasm a goal. This is not lovemaking. This is your prescription revitalizing the penis and learning how to regain and manage sexual energy.
Have him enter you in a soft or semi-hard state, let him move thus allowing him to get hard while inside you. Let him get use to being inside you and feeling and taking note of the stimulating triggers that send him into the “point of no return”. Let him tell you as well so that you can see and feel the sexual responses in your pussy that begin to overwhelm him. Practice finding the edge of your Orgasms together without either of you (especially him) actually cumming. Fully end this practice in the highest state of arousal possible. If you choose to make love or get each other off afterwards, do it in a totally new unit of time. Come to the next lecture at Sexy Spirits entitled: Cultivating Sexual Energy or get the DVD that is coming out in June 2009.
Anton
Do Women Get Addicted to Pleasure?
Last modified on 2009-02-28 16:15:43 GMT. 0 comments. Top.
Dear Anton’
I’ve been reading a lot about your Becoming Orgasmic Providers for Women and have a few questions. Firstly, how do the women who come to you conduct themselves back into the real world with husbands and boyfriends? Do they form attachments to you given that you maybe fulfill needs that perhaps their lovers fail to do? And lastly, have you ever had a woman whom you provide pleasure for become too enamored with your contact. I ask because you providing them pleasure without strings, totally being there for them, could, I image, become addicting for them.
Need To Know
Dear Need To Know,
Women who come to me for “Do-Dates” are usually very surprised initially when I ask them to tell me and even show me exactly how to please them. They naturally assume that I am some sort of sex master who will automatically bring them into la-la land! I explain to them that ALL men will never know, no matter how experienced they are! I make it her responsibility to ALWAYS guide or teach me exactly what she wants in order for me to please her. After all, who knows better about her own body than herself! So because women, through my encouragement, become very comfortable in guiding me, they go back into the real world with husbands and boyfriends better able to communicate their needs and more open and willing to teach them , or have them learn. In other words, they realize their responsibility and power in getting the pleasure and fun that they desire in life.
Now as far as women becoming enamored, attached, or addicted, to my touch, I would say that they become more “enamored”, “attached” and “addicted” to freedom. The freedom to safely surrender to their own body’s pleasure, and finally the freedom to invite and guide the men in their lives how to do it for them so that they can relax and surrender fully and more completely into her body!
Loves Cunnilingus But Wife Not Interested
Last modified on 2009-01-23 04:26:45 GMT. 0 comments. Top.
Dear Anton,
I love performing cunnilingus and want to do it more often, but my wife isn’t interested. What would you suggest to get her to be more open to me going down on her?
Love Going South
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Dear Love Going South,
Speaking as a man with strong Latin American origins, tasting a women is, by far, one of my greatest pleasures. And when it to comes what guarantees a woman’s pleasure, cunnilingus is #2 on the list, second to a well-trained pair of hands that knows how to deliver hours or orgasmic pleasure to women in desire.
Now assuming that your woman enjoys being brought to orgasm, excluding cunnilingus at the moment, then here’s what you do to eventually go down on her.
Offer her a purely hands-on, sensual touching, experience where she agrees to be (along with you) totally focused on HER pleasure. Tell her that you would like her to verbally guide you on how to best bring her pleasure through touch. Be clear that you do not want any reciprocation during this period of pleasuring her and make sure that you are ready to put aside your ego and to listen and follow whatever she says no matter how critical or demanding she may seem. She has to eventually trust that you will not be at all affected by her feedback and direction. You may have do 2-3 sessions before she feels totally comfortable enough with you to truly focus on her own pleasure (and not yours). Once you are able to pleasure her, though touch alone, suggest to her that you would like to now bring her pleasure, again with her instruction, using your mouth and tongue. Make sure you emphasize that it’s all about her receiving pleasure, that you do not want any reciprocation, that you just want to become a great lover for her. She will love that you are truly wanting to focus on her, and because she has learned how to focus on her own pleasure with the touching experience you provided her with, she will be more open to you know using your mouth and tongue in the same way that you were able to use your hands.
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Am I Cheating on My Girlfriend if…
Last modified on 2009-01-23 04:26:09 GMT. 0 comments. Top.
Dear Anton,
“I’ve been unemployed for almost a year, but I made a lot of money when I did work so haven’t had to worry yet. My girlfriend who lives with me is working long hours and travels a lot. I sometimes go to strip clubs; and I am strongly attracted to an Asian dancer. My fantasies now are about Asian women. I want to call one of those numbers and get an Asian girl for the afternoon. But I am conflicted on several levels–am I being racist? Would I be cheating on my girlfriend? Am I already cheating by going to strip clubs? Should I tell her and ask for permission? What if she says NO??”
Asian Lust
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Dear Asian Lust,
First, off “being racist” is excluding someone on some level because of their race. So your particular preference for Asian women is simply what happens to turn you on. Now as far as your question about cheating on your girlfriend, either by enjoying your Asian call-girl or going to strip clubs, it sounds like you feel she might have issues with both. So ‘your not telling her’ is always a risk for losing her trust if she were ever to find out. A woman’s trust in her man is never easy to re-establish once she has felt betrayed.
On the other hand, by telling her or getting her permission to get her support in exploring your fantasies, you will have to possibly deal with her NO should that be her response. Now it would be in your ballpark to decide what you want to do with her NO. How much are you willing to work for having both your sexual freedom and a harmonious relationship at the same time?
The best route, in my opinion, would be total honesty as soon as possible WITHOUT yet having had your Asian girl fantasy. Your going to strip clubs, for most women, is a “misdemeanor”. Kind of like a going out with guys to a sports bar. You could even get away with hot lap dance and at worst be slapped with a “heavy fine’ by the Mrs. On the other hand, being sexually intimate with another women, well, that can get you a life sentence if not immediate execution!
Here’s what I suggest. Be upfront about your strip club escapades. Even offer to bring her just so she sees that “it’s a guys thing”. Once she’s cool or at least not wanting to get in the way of your innocent fun, arrange at some future date, a safe lap dance with your fantasy Asian girl. Now you can totally decide, as your fantasy geisha undulates her “Buddha” in front of you, whether you need to take it to the next step. If you do, then you have least provided lots of communication beforehand, that can either 1) open the door for more delicate discussions on your desires with one another or, 2) bring on a lighter sentence should you get busted for having a call girl experience and being found out.
I say if you really want to experience all your sexual fantasies before you die, express them first, with your current partner, see where it goes in terms of her support, decide what you can live with or not) and make it a normal way of living with any future relationships in your life from the very beginning.
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